"Don't say 'I love you'
today"Say What!
This was the advice and
headline that assaulted me this morning from one of the dozens
of e-zines I subscribe to. What could the author be meaning?
Well, something
important it turns out.
He suggested instead
that you look your spouse or significant other straight in the
eyes and tell that person what really stood out for you when you
first met - the one thing that really impressed you about her or
him.
Then he suggests that
you mention also, the one thing that you really love about your
spouse now and how much you really admire or appreciate that
quality.
Then; go ahead and tell
her or him that you love them.
People
thrive and live for positive criticism
It is a fact that most
of us do not tell others how much they mean to us and how much
we appreciate their good deeds. Too often we only announce our
displeasure when things go badly or not to our liking.
I am no different in
this respect. Just this morning, I railed against one of my
employees for being late at work. The fact that a recent storm
had made the roads extra slippery this morning and were a factor
in a multi-car accident, thus delaying this fellow's arrival
were not factored in my thinking. Nor was I taking into
consideration this employee's usual punctuality.
No, instead I had let
other events from that morning affect my emotions and humanly, I
was venting my frustration.
The
'Secret' of a Great Relationship
The secret, therefore,
is hold back on the criticism and to do and say something
positive instead, reinforcing the views and feelings you had
initially with the one or ones you love. Their sense of
well-being will be strengthened and you will receive more in
return.
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